I was just reading an interesting post on one of my favorite blogs, Mom Start. Louise watched a video on a website called Jen and Barb, Mom Life.
The video was the two hosts talking about taking your Husbands last name, and their takes on why they did or didn't.
To be 100% honest, I was very mad about this video. My personal opinion is that it is not wrong or right to take his last name. It is your own choice.
Barb made it seem like it was wrong, and that you lose your identity to take his name.
Here is what I wrote on Louise's blog as my own opinion and what I did.
"I was sooooo excited to take my Husbands last name. He is my sole mate, and I took his name to show that we are now one.
Don’t get me wrong, we are still two separate people with different interests etc, but we choose to spend our lives together as one.
I (and my Husband) take our marriage vows very seriously. We are truly in love!!! We like to be traditional. I don’t see anything at all wrong with that. I actually think that the marriages that stay with in the traditional scope of things are the ones that last!!!
I feel truly sad for anyone who thinks it’s wrong to take your Husbands last name. It is a personal choice, but one I stand by whole heartily!!!"
I would like to know what you think. Watch the video, and then please comment below if you changed your name, plan too, or you would never do it and why.
2 comments:
I did not take my husband's last name when we married--we've been married for 14 years now. My take on the "debate"? I think too many people worry about things that don't have anything to do with them. It's a personal choice either way.
I have had to deal with a lot of personal attacks for my choice from people. I'm not running around with a shirt--it's in everyday life. But, being told by a postal officer in rural Missouri that I am evil isn't going to make me change my mind on keeping my name.
Nor with being harassed by some acquaintance's husband telling me that he "never would have married such a woman" change my views. That one actually made me laugh out loud.
I am not changing my name. I am proud of my name. I will not change it and I never hid the fact from anyone. My husband understands and had no qualm about my keeping my name. It, for me, is a true example that true friendship, true love, takes you as you are and doesn't try to change you. (Belief wise, not name wise--so not talking about name changing here!)
I've tried 3 times to leave a comment. Blogger HATES ME. anwyways thank you for reposting and I agree with you it's a personal choice and people shouldn't be so judgmental of others.
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